We all know the feeling.
It might start with something small, it could even start with little things we don't notice. It could start with a huge trigger or you could be in the middle of a very bad episode of mental health.
We reach that point, that moment, where we realise we are not ok, that we are not ourselves and we are feeling disconnected, dissociated, we are feeling down. Maybe you're bawling your eyes out or it's just the other shoe dropping as a feeling of realisation washes over you.
Why do I feel like this?
What I’m supposed to do now?
How do I deal with this?
These or many more questions might race through your head and you think; this is silly. I am not supposed to feel like this, nobody wants to see me like this, so most of us shutdown, hide it. After all, this is what society tells us to do, right? It’s not ok to show weakness, it is not ok to show that you are in pain. We live in a world where we overshare everything in this social media driven world, but not weakness, not pain, not mental health issues, it is a stigma. But you know what?
Seriously, fuck it.
Admitting and embracing that you are not ok is one of the main steps when it comes to getting out of that rut. It will help you admit the issue, process your feelings and you might find a way to find a release (cry, scream, workout…), whatever works for you.
After admitting to yourself that you are not indeed ok and that, that is totally fine, you might want to end up asking for help after you have had time to process it.
Sharing that you are indeed NOT OK is one of the strongest and bravest things you can do in the face of adversity and the best step that you can take to destroy and crush the stigma. Shout it from the rooftops, say something to your friends and family, or just trust a close friend if you are not comfortable sharing. We think we might be a burden, but most times, when we have shared that we are not ok to friends (who are indeed sometimes as important as a family), all we have found is a “Why didn't you say something before? How can I help? You can count on me”. Please talk to someone. Never EVER think you are a burden, because you’re not. You are a magnificent human being, deserving of love and your friends and loved ones will be there for you when you need to lend a hand. Trust us, they will. Ignore that voice in your head, and talk to someone you feel comfortable talking to.
Ignore what the world has told you to do, feel what you want to feel, ask for help if you need to, and never be ashamed of being yourself and that includes never be ashamed of not being ok. You feel like this now, but It will not last forever.
If you need help, please use one of the sources below to seek the support you need
Childline – for children and young people under 19 Call 0800 1111 – the number won't show up on your phone bill
All sources provided by the NHS
Love, Witchin x